Like most parents, my husband and I try to give our son a sense of balance: My husband has always encouraged our son to test his limits, but I am always a bit more nervous about his safety. But, it turns out, most Moms are that way.
A group of researchers at the University of Iowa tested how Mothers and their children rated various dangerous scenarios - everything from climbing on a counter to using an axe (they didn't actually give children an axe, they just talked about it). Not surprisingly, there was a vast difference in the danger ratings.
So how can we help discuss potential hazards for our children in a way that will help them with safety? Here are some tips:
- Although you may initially get your child's attention with phrases like "Don't do that!" don't forget to explain why.
- Use terms that explain exact consequences, not things that could happen in the future, since children are usually only interested in their immediate needs.
- Designate your child to be in charge of safety for a day and have them point out dangerous situations to family members.
- Use empathetic storytelling to tell your child about your own injuries; let them know that you aren't impervious to pain.
- Try to let the little things go.
What's the worst injury you had as a child from not being safe?