Monday, August 29, 2016

When the rules aren't clear

Let's say you have a rule in your household that there are no electronic devices at the dinner table. You have this rule in place because you are trying to establish the expectation for your son early in life and you don't want to become one of those families you see in restaurants - the ones who are all staring at personal screens and not talking to each other.

So, you have this rule in place, and let's say (hypothetically speaking) your husband breaks it by checking for tomorrow's weather on his phone. Do you:

A. Remind him in front of your son that there are no devices at the table.

B. Tap into your inner Elsa and let it go.

C. Be slightly passive aggressive about it by writing about it on your blog so you can remember to have a conversation about it later on.

Whatever you chose is actually not important, because here's the thing: Parents are not on the same page as their children when it comes to technology use. The National Cyber Security Alliance funded a study (a small one, but still interesting) that found there is a large disconnect on what parents say are the technology rules for the household and what children say are the technology rules for the household. Basically, children aren't aware that they have limitations on screentime, have no use at the dinner table, that they have to ask permission before downloading a new app or that their devices have a bedtime. Parents aren't enforcing their own rules.

I'm taking this all in as a reminder that my husband and I need to sit down and hash out the technology rules for our household, so that we are on the same page when it comes to enforcing them.

When's the last time you reviewed the technology rules of the household with your children? Tell me in the comments.

Friday, August 26, 2016

Long live Mom and Dad

My ears always perk up when I hear something getting linked to nature instead of nurture. (Science is cool.)

I remember when I was pregnant and my doctor said I should find out if my Mom was early or late with her first pregnancy to help determine if I was more likely to be early or late with my son.

(I learned that we hold onto the babies in our family for longer than 40 weeks. The doctors ended up inducing me anyway.)

I am not sure if that prompt by my doctor was backed by any science or if she just wanted to alleviate my fears. But the older my son gets, the more questions I ask my Mom about her experiences - just in case there is more to genetics than we give it credit for.

One newly popular discussion of nature versus nurture is how long we are going to live. I know lots of people who have learned their family history to be prepared for any medical anomalies, so it makes sense that they also learn how long their lives may be based off their parents' ages.

Maybe this all seems obvious, or maybe it is just a good reminder: Ask your parents more questions.

Do the people in your family tend to live a long time? Tell me in the comments.

Wednesday, August 24, 2016

The eyes have it

My eye doctor's office texted me to say that it was time for my annual eye exam. And I immediately set up my appointment.

To put this in perspective, my dentist and my regular doctor have also both notified me for an appointment. But I haven't responded to them. (I will, just not right now.)

I love my eye doctor. I used to go to a mean eye doctor, but he was mean, so now I go to my current doctor who is insanely nice. I have recommended her to about 12 people and when my son is a little older, I will take him there as well.

Vision health is important to me. This is probably because I've had vision issues for as long as I can remember.

I understand that not all families take vision health as importantly as I do. Even though I know that, I was sad to read that children are not getting vision exams, even when they are covered with health insurance.

Here's the thing about eye exams that a lot of people don't understand: Vision tests and vision health are two separate things. And they are both equally important. I am super happy that my son has perfect vision, and I hope that continues. It is my responsibility to make sure that his eye health also stays as perfect as possible.

How's your eyesight? Tell me in the comments.

Tuesday, August 23, 2016

It must be hard being a guy

I am super glad that I am a woman.

Like most people, I have thought about what life must be like to be the opposite gender (people do think about that, right?) and I have determined that being a guy must be hard. I can't imagine walking around with their equipment all day or having difficulty focusing on something and shoes at the same time. That seems weird to me.

The truth is, both genders have their struggles. Women, for example, face a lot of issues around equality at work. And sociologists have recently determined that men experience the greatest amount of stress and health issues when they have to take on the role of sole breadwinner. (Women, on the other hand, take a lot of pride in being the one who provides for the family.)

My husband and I have - at various times in our relationship - been the sole income earner for our family. It is stressful. It is hard. But, it turns out that it might have been harder for him than it was for me. I have found that life seems to work out a little better when we both have jobs, so I am happy that is the case for us right now.

I guess what I am saying is: Thanks, honey. Thanks for being there for me and our family when I've needed you to be.

Are you the sole breadwinner for your family? Tell me how you feel about it in the comments.