- Spanking teaches children that hitting is acceptable.
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- Timeouts increase separation anxiety.
- Bribery works in the short term, but not the long term.
- And now, yelling has been shown to reinforce bratty behavior and increases depression, even among children raised in "warm and loving" homes.
As this Slate article points out, this is what parents are supposed to do:
Beforehand, tell your child what privilege he will lose for any undesirable behavior. The penalty should be brief, significant but not harsh (like no TV tonight versus no TV for a week). When your child commits an offense, you say "You lose X because of this behavior," and then go to another room quietly and calmly.Is anyone else laughing?
Sorry, I'm trying to keep an open mind here, but logic and three-year-olds don't go hand-in-hand. But hey, I'm game. I will be happy to try this approach, because I know that I will mess up occasionally and lose my temper and raise my voice. I'm a parent; I'm not perfect. (That's my motto!)
I'd be interested from hearing some tips from other parents (you know...research from the real field). What approach works in your household?