Thursday, November 19, 2015

When mom and dad are your roommates

I have returned to my Mother's nest twice in my life. The first time was right after college, when I stayed there for three months to search for my first job. The second time was when job situations caused me to live apart from my husband and I was pregnant and no one wanted me living on my own. I was fortunate that both times my Mom and Step-Dad were there to take me in and take care of me.

And it turns out, a lot of us are fortunate. So fortunate, in fact, that there are more women living with their parents now than there were in 1940. The reasons for returning to the nest will sound familiar: Saving money to buy a house, just left college and don't have the career in place yet or undergoing a career change. The difference between now and 1940, is that single women in this age are more likely to be college educated and are not waiting on a marriage proposal to move them out of their parents' home.

There is a downside to all of this, of course. Some parents are not set up to have their fledgling children return to them so quickly upon leaving and all parties have to learn to live together as adults instead of a parent/child relationship. There is also the notion that it is hard for many young adults to admit that they still need help from Mom and Dad.

I, for one, am grateful that my parents are there to take me in if I need them to.

Could you live with your parents again in their house? Why or why not? Tell me in the comments. 


  1. Me and my husband just moved in with my parents and little brother because i am in between jobs and wanted to move to a better area. My new job doesn't start til December so I think we will be here for at least a few months because it has been great. I wish I would have not rushed to move out years ago when I did lol. But being married that was obviously thing to do.

    1. You are lucky to have a parental home to return to Miya. I wish you luck in your new job!